Are real and meaningful personal connections with family and friends a rarity, an opportunity always missed because of life being too stressful and “quick fixes” are norms of the times?
E-mails, texts, chats, instant messaging, tweets, Facebook stats … are these what are left of normal avenues to be connected to a loved one? Sadly, are they the only means to show one really cares and an instant response to an immediate need?
What has happened to home visits, sleepovers, fellowships over dinners stretching out to coffee and desserts, cook-outs, picnics, Sunday brunches, spending countless moments browsing through photo albums, letter-writing, love notes magnetized on refrigerator doors, road trips and even just plain old spur of the moment phone conversations to tell the other that he is being thought of, remembered and even yearned for?
Life has become an instant … relegated to “Hi’s” and “Hello’s” and “How are you?” to “I’m fine” and “Thank You.” Gone are the days when most families wait for dad to come home for dinner and together savor the food mom labored to cook. And at the dinner table, spend meaningful conversations sharing the day’s stories of school, work and anything significant or otherwise about each one’s life and be inspired or touched regarding what one family member has to say.
Please take the moment to connect meaningfully by being attuned to another’s heart, to relish a hand clasp, to hug a tired loved one, to stare at each other’s eyes and to express tenderness. More so, to convey an inspiring smile, to reach out and pat one on the shoulder, to sneak a peck on the cheek, to prepare a glass of iced water for a loved one who has been sweating it out on a hot summer’s day and to slip a note on a lunch bag and write “I love you.”
However, these mundane yet meaningful expressions of connection and love have been overlooked as missed opportunities. This is a heartbreaking reality, but what do we do about it?
Do we just continue on with life unabashedly and unmindful of priorities that when the time comes in our old age, we are left to wish that we had done better with our relationships and wallow in self-pity and say “IF ONLY?”
Then we realize, that time is continuing, a second past is tagged a memory. A fleeting moment we go through is done with and nothing we do can nullify it. In James 4, verse 14 it says: “Yet we do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away.”
We are gifted with a life so short; thus, we should take hold of every ticking moment as noteworthy to be linked to our loved ones in thought and deed pursuing the love of God as inspiration and His grace to be able to do so.
Simply, take the moment.